Generally speaking, it is maintained that menstruation is a biological process, a socio-culturally stigmatized phenomenon and a disguised personal corporeal experience. However, it is noticed that menstrual experiences also have...
moreGenerally speaking, it is maintained that menstruation is a biological process, a socio-culturally stigmatized phenomenon and a disguised personal corporeal experience. However, it is noticed that menstrual experiences also have existentialist underpinnings. Women, as menstruating subjects keep their menstrual bodies within the boundaries of certain norms and prescribed rules of etiquette. The most simplistic understanding of the idea of menstrual etiquette may be uncovered through the following examples: Women are expected to observe menstrual etiquette by keeping silent about their menstrual experiences, by keeping a check on their clothes in order to confirm that it is stain-free, by hiding the purchase of sanitary wear, by storing and using it secretly, etcetera. Hence, menstrual etiquette is plainly related to concealment, silence and surveillance.
Since childhood, women have been motivated to menstruate politely. By polite menstruation, we may refer to the disciplinary measures that menstruating women follow as repeated upholders of etiquettes related to menstruation. These measures are directed towards one core goal, which is to conceal or cover the facts about their menstruation. For instance, few efforts towards this concealment include the following: ““Look at the back of my skirt, is anything showing?” “Here, take my sweater and tie it around your waist, I’ll walk behind you.” “Can you pass me a tampon in your algebra book?” We dwell in the delicious space of shared secrets and protect one another from ridicule” (I.M. Young)
Image: Cover page of Feminist Philosopher, I.M. Young’s seminal book: On Female Body Experience.
In addition, the potency of polite menstruation also lies in the directive demands of creating a balance between a menstruating body and the socio-cultural situation that prevails. This balancing act communicates a lot about the existing power dynamics. A menstruating body acquires the status of docility in an active way indicates two things, first, a docile body is active with regards to the actions that are other-directed, referring to the fact that women as menstruators both physically and verbally actualise this panoptic discipline in response to the power structures that foster such regimes and second, docile bodies as active also entails the act of self-policing. Thus, a menstruating body is glued, frozen and deserted!
Organised menstruation does not refer to deliberate or scheduled menstruation; rather, it refers to a well-planned, strategized and managed menstrual experience. Women, in our society still choose polite menstruation over the proposed idea of organised menstruation. The question is: “Why does this form of choice transpire?” The extensive climate of menstrual shame and women’s attribution and ascription to it could be considered as one of catalysts for the selection and transpiration of this choice. Menstrual shame, as a phenomenon is a subjective experience; a product of internalisation of external norms and menstrual shaming is a product of objective/ external influence on women’s bodies and bodily events.
In the Indian society, taboos around menstruation reflect the consistent perception that a menstrual body is impure and dishonourable. The range of limitations and secrecy which are associated with menstruation create a negative impact on women. One such negative impact could be specified as polite menstruation. When we are speaking of women’s subjective act of menstruating politely as one of the negative impacts, this indicates that there is an undermining impetus that is originally guided and governed by the prevalent socio-cultural design. Therefore, we may simply state the choosing politeness or planning is actually a product of the act of shaming.
Image: Period Shaming is a Serious Problem, Engender.
All in all, it can be moderately said that the relation between women and their lived menstrual experiences encompass not merely biological subordination of women, but also their socio-cultural subjection.